*You've NEVER heard of #2*
So, I see my therapist once a week and she tells me to write down things I’m grateful for and I’m like yeah… yeah… I’ve heard it before Susan *this is not her actual name haha* but being the good little student I am, I committed to trying it out longer than a day because I mean… what else do I have to do?! And nothing I’m doing on my own is working to help me through my anxiety *shocker*
This was three years ago… and I’m still writing my gratitude lists almost every single day because SURPRISE… they work! Why else would a therapist who went to school for 6 years and gets paid bookoo bucks be telling me to do it?!
Now, I will say gratitude lists in themselves (like writing 3 things I’m grateful for everyday) can get a bit boring - sorry Susan - but they are a great place to start. The trick is picking 3 NEW things everyday, that way you start to appreciate even the little things :)
Since I like to jazz things up a bit to keep myself interested I come up with my own lists of appreciation, here are the 3 that are helping me the most right now during this weird, unknowness *I know it’s not a word but I think that accurately sums up life right now*
List #1 I Accomplished…
My personal favorite because it makes me feel like a boss b*tch even when I have only done what others would call “nothing”. Forget that. Let’s be real you’re always doing something and a lot of the time you feel like you’re doing nothing you actually needed to do nothing. Most our worlds have been consumed by productivity and if you aren’t productive 100% of the time you feel like sh*t for it. BUT I SAY NO MORE. Even doing nothing can be a productive task because it’s taking time for YOURSELF and everyone needs a little self care, ya feel me?
Sorry for yelling, I get real passionate about not falling into the endlessly working mindset.
Onto the list that’ll make all that mental torture vanish. Every day at the end of the day write down a handful of things you did and I mean even if this is as small as picking your nose *JK don’t put that on the list* but it can and should be even the smallest of tasks because they’re just as meaningful. Like yesterday, I wrote down that I finished the 6th season of Brooklyn 99 ...for the 3rd time. Because I love it and it brings me joy! And it made me feel good that I took the time to sit down and do nothing else but watch mindless, funny television when normally I feel like I should be working while I watch tv. Not tah-day endless working mindset… not tooooday.
Now if you’re sitting there like, “I have absolutely NO problem with stopping working and doing nothing all day… that’s the problem!” I get it, I am also like this. I’m like a hybrid species of lazy workaholics, anyone else? No worries, you can still use this list, you’ll just write down a small task of something like ‘washed a dish’ or ‘made myself breakfast’ or whatever it is you did!
List #2 If It Weren’t For This Pandemic…
This one I’ve obviously only started doing a few weeks ago but man is it making me really appreciate what is happening right now *minus the people dying part*. I read an article that talked about this being “The Great Pause” and woof did that give me all the feels. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed with the world and wondering how to keep up or you feel like you’re always being pulled in different directions by 100 different people now is your time to finally let all of that go because guess what?! There’s nothing you can do! Hurray. People nowadays are so used to the go-go-go that they don’t even know how to stop.
Now, I will never say once that this time is supposed to be used for “relaxing” because even if you do self care all day and do nothing but lie down and read a book, mentally this is not and won’t be a relaxing time. It’s a very stressful, anxiety-prone time. But that doesn’t mean that’s what you need to focus on because again… there’s nothing you can do about it except stay home.
For my ‘If it weren’t for this pandemic list…’ I write down things like, I wouldn’t be able to go on late morning walks with Michael every day or I wouldn’t be able to save so much money by not going out all the time, or I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to watch Brooklyn 99 4x over *it’s not embarrassing, your embarrassing* or I wouldn’t be able to literally lay around the house in my oversized t-shirts and do nothing all day guilt free - how many times could you say that before?
List #3 I’m Grateful for…
I know I already talked about this one up at the top but it truly is a great place to start. Always choosing something new to be grateful for even if that’s as simple as having a nose so you can smell the flowers… even if you hate the smell of flowers… you're still grateful to have the nose to smell them and to know you don’t like them, right? Right.
I never say always but there always, always is some good to find - if that sounds annoying to you and you’re like some things just SUCK, I totally understand this was me 3 years ago... It just means you need to start writing these lists.
Okkk, thank me later, byeeee. Xx
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